Cord Cutting Ritual: How to Release What Still Has Hold of You
By Jeanah Jens, intuitive practitioner — 47 years working with thousands of clients
Key takeaways
- Cord-cutting severs the energetic attachments that keep old pain alive — the ones talking and time have not touched.
- You need one tool: a black obsidian arrowhead. Not scissors, not a kitchen knife, and not any other stone.
- The ritual has four stages: intention, the cut, the closing, and cleansing the stone.
- The root changes form each round and usually comes back smaller. That is progress. Keep going until you feel empty.
- Never leave the empty space open. Fill it with something wonderful.
- Aftercare matters: a detox bath, with the cord-cutting prayer repeated until the words feel true.
- Cord-cutting is permanent. It is not for an argument, or for anyone you still want back in your life.
Understanding Cord-Cutting
You may be wondering what it means to cut cords.
Sometimes something seems to pull on our energy long after an experience has ended. It can feel as though part of your spirit is still caught in a memory, a wound, a place, a fear, a pattern, or an old version of yourself. It may feel like being held back, blocked, or unable to fully move forward.
In energetic healing, this is often described as a cord attached to your navel. It can feel like dark cobwebs around your aura. It feels heavy, dark and unfamiliar. You may carry emotions that do not belong in your present day life anymore.
Cord-cutting is the choice to stop feeding what drains you. It is the moment you decide that the pain does not get to own the rest of your story.
What Emotional Cord-Cutting Releases
Emotional cord-cutting severs unhealthy energetic attachments and ties.
This can include trauma, grief, draining relationships, painful environments, harmful habits, addictions, fear, shame, old beliefs, repeating patterns, psychic attacks and any experience that has left your energy feeling scattered and depleted.
This ritual is a way of saying: I release what is not mine to keep. I break free, and I reclaim my life and power back.
Signs You May Be Corded
- Your energy is depleted for no reason you can point to
- Thoughts of a person or a time in your life arrive uninvited, especially at night
- You feel stuck, unable to make decisions that used to be easy
- You keep talking about someone who is no longer in your life
- You find yourself checking for signs, updates, or proof
- Unhealthy habits keep winning — comfort eating, drinking, endless scrolling
- The same kind of person, or the same situation, keeps appearing with different faces
If several of these feel familiar, a cord may still be feeding on your energy.
The Black Obsidian Arrowhead Stone
Black obsidian is not technically a mineral or crystal. It is volcanic glass, created when molten lava cools so quickly that its molecules do not form the geometric patterns found in crystals.
It carries the energy of primal heat, fire, and ash. It is swift, dark in color, protective, and powerful. Obsidian is often used to absorb heavy energy and brings hidden truth to the surface.
An obsidian arrowhead can become a sacred tool for this work: a symbol of the clean, clear choice to cut away what has attached itself to you. It’s very important that you just use an obsidian stone for this ritual.
Symbolism
Black obsidian represents raw truth. It grounds you through the root chakra and carries protective energy.
A ceremonial obsidian arrowhead stone, or knife strengthens personal boundaries. It helps you clear your energy, call yourself back, and remember where you end and the old pain begins.
It is not about fighting your past. It is about no longer giving your past permission to rule your present.
How To Perform This Powerful Ritual
Declaring Your Power Back
Release all contracts, cords, and energies that keep me bound to pain, fear, or the past.
I declare that I am free, and I reclaim my power.
The lessons have been learned. The memories and emotions that no longer serve me are cleared from my path.
I move forward unburdened, into a future that is open, wide, and full of possibility.
I make space for the unknown, and I trust the divine timing of my destiny.
The Detox Emotional Cord-Cutting Bath
What You Will Need
- Black obsidian chips
- Five to 10 drops of your favourite essential oil
- A carrier oil such as jojoba, coconut, or almond oil
- One cup of Epsom salts
- One cup of magnesium flakes
- A candle
- Beautiful music
- A glass bottle
The Bath Recipe
Begin by placing the black obsidian chips into a glass bottle. Add five to 10 drops of your chosen essential oil over the obsidian stones, then allow it to sit for a little while so the intention of the ritual can settle into the blend.
Prepare your carrier oil. When you are ready, combine a small amount of the oil mixture with it.
Draw a warm bath for yourself. Light a candle. Turn on music that makes you feel held, soft, and present.
Add one cup of Epsom salts and one cup of magnesium flakes to the water. Then add a small amount of your prepared oil blend.
Slide into the water and allow yourself to rest there for thirty minutes. Close your eyes. Breathe slowly. Let the water become a place where you no longer have to hold everything together.
Repeat the emotional cord-cutting prayer quietly, as many times as you need. Let the words move through you until you begin to feel true in your body, mind and spirit. Stay for 30 minutes and when you are ready to finish, watch the water spiral down the drain. See all the old pain, stories, and old energy fall away from you. You are not taking anything with you.
Step out, towel dry, and move gently into bed. Keep the music on. Let yourself enter your dream lodge.
Relaxed, renewed, and open to the timeless beauty of who you really are.
The Emotional Cord-Cutting Prayer
I release all contracts, cords, and energies that keep my spirit trapped. I declare that I am free and reclaim my power. My lessons have been learned, and my old emotions and memories are cleared. I can now move forward ensured and ready for the future to open up to me. I make space for the unknown to appear and trust what the future has in store for me.
I release my past.
I take control and regulate my present.
I reclaim myself and walk down the new path to love and light.
Benefits You Will Feel After the Cord Cutting
After this ritual, you may feel a sense of energetic relief and renewed energy.
Your body may feel lighter after releasing heavy emotional baggage. Your focus can sharpen. Your personal power can return. New boundaries may begin to form with greater mental clarity.
You may feel a new level of sovereignty: a quiet freedom that comes from remembering you are no longer available for what drains you.
Steps to Stay Clear
Block the person, environment, pattern, or influence that continues to pull you backwards.
Delete old messages or reminders of your old story.
Avoid places or situations that keep reopening the wound.
Stop checking for signs, updates, or proof that keeps you tied to the old story.
Interrupt the mind chatter. Return to your breath, your body, and the life in front of you.
You have released what was holding you.
Now choose what gets to stay.
About Jeanah Jens
I am Jeanah Jens and I have been in practice for 47 years. I work in the psychic healing realm. I have used the power of emotional cord cutting with complete results and love what I see in my clients in the end results. If you’re wanting a session just call me for a brief consultation.
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